Pada dasarnya saya adalah pemerhati. Maksudnya saya senang memperhatikan orang. Dan tiap kalinya, membuat saya jadi refleksi diri. Apabila waktu lagi ada, kita jadi lebih peka memperhatikan, dan mata lebih jelas melihat.
Setiap lebaran kita selalu bertemu banyak kerabat dan saudara baik jauh maupun dekat. Ada kalanya tahun lalu kita tidak sempat untuk bertemu tapi tahun ini mendapatkan kesempatannya.
Apa yang saya pelajari lebaran tahun ini ?
Ada tiga hal penting yang membuat saya tertegun, senyum.
Pertama, age appropriately. (geli sendiri)
Umur tidak akan berhenti untuk bertambah, setiap tahun kita dapat melihat evolusi teman maupun saudara. Cerahnya wajah, warna pada rambut, sehat jasmani dan rohani, bagaimana masing-masing mempresentasikan diri, tindak tanduk cara fikir yang terucap. Sangat terlihat jelas tertangkap didepan mata. This is obviously, purely my thinking. Mine only, let me clear this out, yes. But looking at others made me think and reflect on myself. What is done good, what to keep up, what to keep working on it. What i like, what i do not like. What to be and what not to be. Learn from others, making a better self. So that we age appropriately.
Kedua, grandparents gone digital.
Now this is funny. This is something new. Keberhasilan para grandparents transform digital. Mendengar ibu saya yang berumur 72 tahun berkata,”aku lihat dari youtube ! Aku belajar dari YouTube !” rasanya bangga bangeeeeeettd. Hahahahahha.
Ketiga, seeing today’s consequences.
All and all, this year, saya mendapat sedikit pencerahan.
Realisation in a good way. Looking at others made me realised somehow, someway, I’ve managed to make some good choices in life. Bertemu banyak orang from many walks of life made me understood that you and me today, are the consequences from the decisions we’ve made years and years ago. After all this time, questioning was I right to make that choice, did I do it right?
In the end you’ve come to wise up and recognised what kind of life you want to have now, and for the rest of your life. Career. Family. Passion. Life. The quality of life. Be specific. The kind of husband, the kind of wife, the mother, the father, the daughter, the son, the kind of family you want. When now or in your 40ies, 50ies, 60ies, 70ies, 80ies and so on. The decision you made in your teens, 20ies, 30ies will show later in life. That is today. Seeing today’s consequences. Right in front of you.
Life is a process. For those who want to mend, fix to become better there is still time. Hard work but it is possible.
For my nieces and nephews, look around you and pick your favorites. You don’t need to take it all in. Just pick the ones, the parts, the things you like best and forget the rest. Pick a lot. Register in your mind, make a vision and then hold that vision. Tightly. Pelajaran ada didepan mata.
Learning is a truly a gift. Pain or happiness is your teacher.
You really have to love yourself to get the best quality of life you want in this world. Fight for your life.
Happy Eid Mubarak everyone ! See you on my next post.
Tyas Handayani 